We often look back at our childhood and see the glaring red lights of the things our parents did that we think or more importantly thought were wrong. It is hard to look back and count the millions of things that they did right. This makes it easier to shy away from parenting in their style, but there are other things to keep in mind.

Learning From Their Mistakes.

We have the wonderful option of learning from those we have watched. We can learn from the things they did right, but also from the things they did wrong. We can make improvements to their style as we work hard to find out own. Parenting is a job where the rules aren’t clearly defined, the job discription isn’t laid out well, and the manual for the kid never shows up. But, you can take what you saw your parents to right and change what they did wrong as you develop your own parenting style.

Two Parents.

In a child’s life, having two parents is a good thing, an ideal thing. It doesn’t always happen that it works out, but when it does it is a good thing. However, that brings two parents, each with two parents of their own. The couple has to find the parenting style that works for both of them, which is often about blending the their parents’ style along with their own.

Trial and Error.

Often times we find the parenthood is a list of trial and errors. You have to find out what works best as you grow and you have to figure out what works best for you and not what works best for someone else.

Your Children.

The sad thing is that not all children are alike. Each has their own personalities and as such you can’t treat them all the same and expect the same results. If you are thinking your parents did a good job and that’s what you are going to do, you will probably find out that your children aren’t exactly the way you were and may react very differently.

Your Personality.

Parenting style often comes from you. It comes from who you are, what you are like, and the other factors that make up, you. As such, it has to come from you and can’t be handed down from your parents. You have to find out what works for you and what doesn’t. You might be a completely different parent from those that your parents were. That’s fine, it’s you.

Your parents probably did a lot of things right, and it is good to learn from that. But they probably did some things wrong as well. It is good to learn from this as well as you develop your own personal parenting style (with your partner if you are blessed enough to have one), and your children, as you will discover that their personalities will affect your parenting as well.

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